On Wednesday, March 29th, 2006, while I was teaching a class in Phoenix, Arizona, I received a phone call from my Mother. She knows not to call during the day when I am traveling unless there is something very important. I got a strange, somewhat unsettled feeling when the phone started ringing.
She told me that my Grandmother had been found on the floor of her home earlier in the day. She had suffered a stroke, though we did not know (at this point) what the extent of it might be.
The next evening (2006/03/30), Mom told me that it had been determined that her stroke had been massive. She was completely unresponsive and there were no indications that she would make any kind of recovery. My parents planned to depart the following morning (Friday, March 31st) to drive down the hospital in Richfield, Utah where she was being monitored. All of my Dad’s siblings were already there.
I flew home from Phoenix Friday afternoon and my wife and I left about 45 minutes later to drive to St. George, Utah. We had already planned this trip so that our niece could dye Charlotte’s hair. Saturday, April 1st was the only opportunity to do so before my youngest brother’s wedding, scheduled for April 8th.
Saturday morning, while my wife’s hair was being done, I finally got in touch with my parents again. My Grandmother had always made it clear (and had her living will in writing) that she did not want to be kept alive by “extraordinary” means in such a situation. Respecting her wishes, the I.V. and breather were removed on Friday evening. She was still alive, but there was no telling how long it would be before nature took it’s course and she would be gone. It could be minutes or a few days, at most.
We decided to head to the hospital as soon as Charlotte’s hair was done. Unfortunately, I had been running like crazy and had slept only quite poorly all week long in Phoenix; I was exhausted and Charlotte can not drive my car (it’s a stick). So we decided to go back to the house in St. George and take a short nap before setting out. Better safe than sorry, we figured.
We left St. George just before 6pm. About an hour later, Mom phoned to tell us that Grandma had passed away.
We were too late. I did not get to say goodbye before she was gone. It’s OK, though … you see, I know that even if nothing bad happened in the process of getting there earlier in the day, Grandma would not have been happy if I had pushed myself when I was so tired. I knew it was OK with her that we were on our way, even we missed her departure.
When we reached the hospital at 8:24pm, we hugged my parents & siblings and 8-10 minutes later, we were all driving back to Loa for the night.
The next day, Sunday, April 2, 2006, the family got together in Grandma’s home in the afternoon. There was way more food than we needed, but the neighbors, family and friends in the church had provided it for us. We went through some photo albums that Grandma had. It was a nice, sunny day, though there was a slightly chilly breeze coming through the little valley all day.
When evening came, my parents and most of my siblings and I started to head back to our respective homes. We caravaned all the way to my sister’s apartment in Salt Lake City, where they all spent the night except for Charlotte & I. We arrived at home a little after 12am.
Charlotte was planning on driving down on Thursday, April 6th to pick Grandma up and bring her back to our house. We were then going to bring her with us to my brother’s wedding in Idaho this weekend. Charlotte had been looking forward to spending a little alone with Grandma and getting to know her better. She has not had many opportunities to spend time with my Grandmother. We will certainly miss her, especially this weekend.
We love you Grandma Peterson and we are happy that you did not suffer any in passing. Now that you are reunited with your husband, we look forward to the day, many, many years from now, when we, too, shall be reunited.
Delia Peterson, born Delia Oyler, April 24th, 1919 in Loa, Utah, died peacefully April 1st, 2006. She is survived by all four of her children, their spouses and almost all of her grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
Goodbye.